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Top 3 Motivators

Posted on October 30, 2012 at 2:15 PM Comments comments (0)

Hello everyone! I'm currently enrolled in a Psychology class, and a recent assignment was to write up a paper about the top 3 things that motivate you. Here's what I came up with! Let me know in the comments what your top 3 motivators are!   - Katrina

After I thought for a while and researched some more information about motivation on the Internet, I decided that Happiness, Rewards, and Freedom/Independence were my top 3 motivators. The list could have definitely been more extensive than just listing the top three.

1. Happiness

Happiness is my top motivator. Knowing that good feelings will come after completion of the task definitely motivates me to get the task done. Some examples of happiness that come from task completion would be: finishing an assignment or piece of art and getting satisfying feedback on it; studying long and hard for a test and then finding out that I passed the test; or volunteering to help at organizations such as the Boys & Girls Club or the local animal shelter. You’re giving happiness to other people and animals and at the same time becoming a happier person yourself due to the pleasant feeling of helping others.

2. Rewards

This sort of goes hand in hand with the first category. If I know that I’ll get a reward, I’ll be much more motivated to finish a task quickly. An example of this would be finishing my homework and getting to go somewhere with my friends. This is the same tactic that is used to get people to work harder; pay them more money for carrying out the task. A reward also could be in the form of a sense of accomplishment, which would also lead to happiness. Entrepreneurs who work for themselves are often motivated by the happiness of accomplishing their tasks. I am also into filmmaking. It is incredibly motivational and rewarding to see my films screened. One film I produced was just shown at a college where 300+ people saw it, and now it’s going to be shown at the Sun and Sand Film Festival on the Gulf Coast where many more people will see it. A documentary film that I just produced was recently shown in front of an audience of 800 people in India. It gives me much pleasure knowing that my work is visible to others. It motivates me to create more films.

3. Freedom and Independence

We are all very blessed to live in the free country of America. While it’s true that America is a free country, it doesn’t necessarily mean that everyone who lives in America feels like a free person. Take for example prisoners or people who are forced to work at a job everyday from 9 to 5. More times than not, those people would likely be willing to work hard to make their sentence come to an end or to make their retirement come at an earlier date. Working towards freedom isn’t something that American’s are just getting used to. American’s were so motivated towards freedom from Britain that they were willing to fight for it. In my own life, an example of working towards freedom would be saving up money to buy a car, which would offer me freedom to go places. I also work to preserve freedom by aiding in campaigns for government officials who have good moral, Christian values, which is where I’m going next week – to the Generation Joshua Student Action Team for Daniel Webster for U.S. House of Representatives.

The illustration at the top of this article was done for a client, Jenny Flintoft, for part of a series of illustrations for her success coaching business in England. She uses my illustrations in a guide she sends out to people via email when they sign up for her website. She gave me great feedback and even gave me a bonus payment. That’s motivation in action!

Blimey Cow's 72 Hour Film Fest...Our Video!

Posted on July 16, 2012 at 3:00 PM Comments comments (0)

What's a "Blimey Cow"?

Blimey Cow is a group of  people, consisting of  two brothers named Jordan and Josh, and Josh's wife, Kelli. They make funny videos and post them on youtube every Monday and Friday. This is one of those videos: 

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Buuut anyway, Blimey Cow just hosted a "72 Hour Film Fest".  Basically, it was a challenge to come up with an amazing story, write a script for it, shoot the footage, and edit it into a beautiful package of cinematographic mastery by the deadline of 72 hours. To prevent cheaters from planning ahead and ruining the whole idea of a 72 hour film fest, they made up some things that had to be included in on the video, like two people shaking hands, a pile of books, a piece of fruit, etc and didn't announce them until the very beginning of the 72 hours.  It sounds a bit daunting do get all that done in such a short amount of time, but actually it isnt, as alot of people found out (apparently), because they had a turn out of around 200 videos!

Well, DiamondBack Productions (that's our fancy-schmancy production company name) made this pshycological thriller.  Two sisters have a...not so peaceful time at a laundromat... It's only 4 minutes long, so please watch it!  

(Oh, and if you will, please notice the craftiness we wove into the title - it's a genious play on the "permanent press" setting on a washing machine...Ohh...maybe we inhaled too much laundry soap whlie we were shooting...XD)

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Leave us comments! We love comments! :D

~ Katrina

Check Out Isabella's Illustrations In the New Book "Dack And The Wooly Booger"!

Posted on July 5, 2012 at 6:45 PM Comments comments (0)

"Dack and the Wooly Booger" is a children's story that is hot off the presses! Perfect for children ages 2 to 8. Written by James Paul Henderson Jr. and Illustrated by Isabella Kinder! Paul Henderson is also the author of "Quiver River".   Dack and the Wooly Booger will soon be available on for $15.00! 


Posted on July 4, 2012 at 1:15 AM Comments comments (0)


     Whether or not a person comes from a highly esteemed family should not determine whether he or she is held in high regard; the amount of knowledge should determine the level of credability. It is unfair that just for having been born into a wealthy or poor family means that you must stay as you were born your whole life. Everyone has the ability to change how their life is going and improve it to the way they desire.


     On interent chat rooms for sharing coding hints and tips, the most knowledgable participant is rewarded with being a moderator, able to help others to become more knowledgable. In competitions, the most talented competitor will recieve the highest level of awards. The individual with the most talent and knowledge will, in the end, be rewarded with the greatest benefits.


     French revelutionary general, Napolian Bonapart, made it known that there were jobs for the talented people in his day. There are still jobs for the talented in this day and age, there are even more than there were in Napolian's time.  Napolian also said that "The tools are for those who know how to use them", which means those who have the skills will be given the oppourtunity to use those skills.


     Many teachers believe in meritocracy, friendships with principals and the student's parents' social position should have no affect on a test score. The only deciding factor if the student passes a test should be his or her amount of correct answers. Henryk Sienkiewicz asserts "Evidently the merit depends on the result of the work." Indeed, great results equal great rewards, as it should be.


     The group of people who oppose meritocracy believe thusly: If someone strives all of their life and doesn't reach the top they will feel as though they have failed and that they are stupid. In a class system, lower people use exscuses like "I'm not the King's heir, I couldn't have done any better." But in thinking correctly, a person does not have to feel he or she is a failure, when they know they they have given something their all, and honestly could have done no better.




“We live in a system that espouses merit, equality, and a level playing field, but exalts those with wealth, power, and celebrity, however gained.”

― Derrick Bell, Ethical Ambition: Living a Life of Meaning and Worth


“As democracy is perfected, the office of president represents, more and more closely, the inner soul of the people. On some great and glorious day the plain folks of the land will reach their heart's desire at last and the White House will be adorned by a downright moron.”

― H.L. Mencken

This is another essay written for CLEP English Comp. practice! Feedback is  welcome!


Does TV Shape the Opinions of the Young Generation?

Posted on July 3, 2012 at 12:05 PM Comments comments (0)


     Fifty years ago, the world was just experiencing the fascinating new creation known as the “television”. In America, most families that owned a television set probably only got 3 channels through their rabbit-ear antennas. How drastically things have changed in the television industry today. Thousands of channels are airing round the clock, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. The average American household has 3 TVs. With this much availability, TV undoubtedly plays a great role in shaping the opinions and positions of everyone who watches them; especially the younger generation.

     Television shows can be quite helpful in some cases. Many TV shows can be found floating in the sea of digital channels that inform watchers, and promote good behavior. Take for example, Animal Plannet, Discovery Channel, and The History Channel: Many programs on these channels are informative and can add to the knowledge base of anyone who watches. These channels may give viewers a chance to see places, animals, and cultures that they may never have seen otherwise. HGTV gives helpful tips to homeowners on how to spruce up their homes, and also how to sell their homes quickly.

     However, on the other hand, there are just as many, if not more, television shows that portray bad behavior and in some senses, glamourize it. MTV has many programs that showcase people doing less than intelligent things. Jersey Shore shows overly tan young adults partying and doing whatever they please, not caring if they hurt someone else’s feelings, as long as they get what they want. Many television channels play movies with content that might make young generations believe that it’s okay to do things that they probably wouldn’t think were okay just by their own consciences. TV shows and movies that show people being tortured and slashed up for “horror” desensitize viewers. Seeing someone dismembered and bloody is just something common now, that almost every American has seen at one time or another in a movie.

     News Channels can be very influential in shaping opinions of young America. Fox News provides news with a republican, conservative slant, while CNN and others present news with a more democratic, liberal view. The slightest bit of information provided on these news channels could easily sway young voters.

     Some people may argue that young generations aren’t greatly influenced by television, and in some cases, this may be true. If a young person watches minimal TV, chances are he or she will have more unique opinions than a young person who watches great amounts of TV. However, even the young person who watches barely any television will likely have friends and family that do watch hours and hours of TV programming; when talking to these people, the opinions they have gathered from TV will possibly rub off on the people they are talking to. Even if TV doesn’t influence someone directly, chances are, it will influence them indirectly in some way.

This is an argumentative essay that I wrote as practice for the CLEP English Composition Exam.

If you have another opinion on it, I'd love to hear it!


Should the Voting Age be Lowered to 13?

Posted on June 11, 2012 at 8:50 PM Comments comments (0)

Hi everyone! Belle here. So I'm still studying to take the College Compositon C.L.E.P. Test. Here's my latest essay;

Should The Voting Age Be Lowered to 13?


If the voting age was to be lowered to 13, today's youth may act differently. Holding the right to vote might instill responsibillity and purpose into teens. The voting age should be lowered to 13, so that way, teens who want to submit their choice of candidate have the freedom to do so. Teens should be able to voice their opinions in regard to political issues and be treated the same as adults. A large percentage of teenagers are highly intelligent and should therefore be allowed to vote.


However, students should be educated about politics, economics and international affairs and prove they are knowledgeable before being granted the privledge to vote. In some states, the capitol provides a mock election allowing the participating students to vote for their favorite candidate. This process helps teens to truly think about who they would pick and is therefore a good learning experience. They should know what their reasons are for voting for the particular candidate he or she has chosen. Many teens are quite intelligent, there are teens I know of that have taken and passed college level tests at the ages of 13 and 14.


  It is important to be a responsible voter, teenagers need to show responsibility in order to have the right to vote. These days, more and more teens are starting their own businesses, which means they're having to deal with customers and making sure the client has a good experience. At home, teens are expected to do their chores, this is a good way to learn responsiblitliy, as is owning and caring for a pet.


The teen's future is directly impacted by the choices made by the president. If someone voted at the age of 13, by end of the four year term of the president, that person would be 17 and only one year away from entering the so-called "adult world". The decisions made in that amount of time could prove helpful or harmful to the voting teen's future, therefore the teen should be concerned with who is chosen for president and have a say in the matter.


There's no denying that some people think teenagers are too immature and inexperienced to vote. People with these thoughs are incorrect, there are just as many inexperienced, uninformed adults. With proper education, students can exceed these low expectations. The teens who prove themselves to be good role models could have a positive influence on their peers and cause then to rise to a level of competence in order to vote for themselves. Allowing teens to vote would be benificial to society in general.

Let me know what you think!:)

            Peace, Love and Sparkles,
                                                      Belle :{)

Sidewalk Sale!!!!!

Posted on May 11, 2012 at 4:50 PM Comments comments (0)

Hey guys! :{D

Come see Katrina and me tomorrow at Yellow Bike Book's "Meet the Author" event! Yellow Bike Books is located in the mall beside McDonald's in Grenada and all the other stores in the mall are participating in a sidewalk sale!  Our books will be on sale for $15.00 tomorrow (usually $20.00) so make sure to come get them at a lower price.
This sunday is Mother's day, have you gotten your mom anything to show her how much you appreciate her, yet? If not, come to the side walk sale, and you might just find the perfect gift for her. Even if you already have her mother's day present, come anyway! We'd love to see you. ( I haven't gotten my mom anything yet, so I'll probably find something for her there...maybe a set of salt and pepper shakers, since the ones we had broke.):)

                              Peace, Love and Sparkles,
                                                                          Belle :{)

High Expectations

Posted on May 11, 2012 at 2:35 PM Comments comments (0)

Hi guys! Isabella here. :{)
So as I said in a  previous blog entry, I've been studying for the CLEP College Composition exam. I'm practicing writing essays, for the essay portion of the test, so I thought I'd post one of the essays I've written and you can let me now what you think. :)

The topic is; "Is it better to have high expectations or low expectations?"

It's far better to have high expectations than low, because high expectations give people something to strive for, and a reason to be the best. While low expectations make it okay to be barely skimming across the bottom.  Say you were a parent with low expectations for your children, it's almost like telling them it's okay to fail. On the other hand, having high expectations for your child is incentive to do something, because children only want to make their parents proud. Its hard for a child to rise above what the parent taught them, since it's what they went by, growing up. Thus they may never strive to do anyhting important or worth while in their lives, if it is not encouraged by a parent they look up to.

A study was done to prove that the level of expectations you set for someone is what they live up to. A classroom full of students was divided by eye color, the brown eyed students were told they were the slow group and  the students with blue eyes were told they were the advanced group. All of the students had to take a test and since the brown eyed students knew that little was expected of them, they did poorly on the test, while the other students with high expectations did better. They lived up to what level of expectations were set for them.

Even businesses are trying to set high expectations for thier customers. Businesses don't want their customers to be expecting terrible results with their product, that's why hair care product brand; "John Frieda"'s slogan; "Expect Perfection" is effective. It may sell more, because its telling the consumer, that with the product, they'll get perfect results.

When starting a business, its better to have high expectations than low. A low expectation sets your business up for failure, which is not a good way to run a business. You couldn't profit anything out of the business if you don't have faith that it can actually go somewhere. Not believing something big could happen to your business will cause you not to work on it.

There are some people who could argue that to have low expectations is better than to have high expectations. That way, If your child comes home with a 'C' on his/her report card, you won't be disappointed.  But this way of thinking would get you average results, at best. So shoot for the moon, if you miss, at least you'll land among the stars.

                      Peace, Love and Sparkles,
                                                               Belle :{)

Set and Achieve Goals

Posted on May 7, 2012 at 6:15 PM Comments comments (0)

Hey guys, Isabella here! :{D

I'm all fired up to achieve a goal. Brian Tracy, the success author who endorsed Katrina and Seth's book is hosting a 30 Day Goals Challenge. The Challenge started May 1st.  Katrina and I both entered it.  I submitted my 30 day goal, you can see  my goal here: Isabella's Goal. It also lists my weekly progress at the bottom of the page.

My goal is to study for and be ready to take and pass the CLEP (College Level Examination Program) College Composition Exam by May 30th.  So far I've been writing practice essays to get myself ready for the essay portion of the test. You may have seen an essay I wrote and posted here on the blog a few weeks ago, if not, go read it!  I will post new essays as I have them ready.

Katrina's goal is to create an Iphone game app. You can see her goal challenge entry here: Katrina's goal.  Won't it be fun to be able to play a game designed by our very own Katrina Kinder?

Watch us as we work towards our goals, our hope is that we inspire you to set and achieve goals of your own. Give yourself a deadline and start now to do something you want to do.  Whether it be to lose ten pounds, earn a hundred dollars, learn something new or whatever it may be, set your mind to it and get started.

Let us know what your goals are and we can cheer you on through out your journey!


                                 ~ Peace, Love and Sparkles,
                                                                               Belle :{D

Relay For Life - This Friday!

Posted on May 2, 2012 at 3:10 PM Comments comments (0)

Isabella and I will be singing this Friday at the Grenada Highschool Football Field at the Annual Relay for Life Fundraiser! 

Stop by and see us at 5:15!

Isabella will sing "Valerie" by Amy Whinehouse, I will sing "Haven't Met You Yet", and together we will duet "Motion of Mercy".

Hang around to see some other singers, and browse the booths for some interesting finds!



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